Positively PostPartum

I remember watching the scale at each prenatal appointment as my weight continued to increase .

I gained 65 pounds while carrying my son.

My weight reached an all time high. I remember being fearful that I would never return to the size I was before I had my baby.

I breast fed which helped the weight to fall off. My son is now 13 months old and I have been back to my pre baby weight for a while but my post baby body is not the same as what it once was. I am learning to love myself and my body for what it is .

This is not easy . There have been a few times over the course of the last year when people say things that have cut to my core. For example , when my son was three weeks old, I had a family member ask me did I GAIN weight. Other instances being people referring to my thinner body as “poor” , or saying I look sick/stressed. I’ve even been told that in loosing weight I lost my “grown woman body” as if I hadn’t just completed the most womanly task possible.

It is a common misconception that shaming a woman for being thin, is not body shaming . Body image issues exist regardless of what the persons outside appearance is – so it’s best not to shame, especially someone that recently had a child or is expecting.

Regardless of these hurtful words, I’ve learned that it is my responsibility to fully love me and surround myself with people that build me up instead of tear me down. My mother , sister, and cousins remind me that I am beautiful and have no idea how their body positive comments have helped to keep me sane. My fiancée continues to make me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world regardless of what I look like.

Most importantly , the unconditional love and admiration I receive from my baby boy is a reminder that no matter what my postpartum body looks like , he is more than worth every stretch mark , additional pound, and extra skin. Asher is the best part of my life.

Momma’s, this a reminder to be kind to yourself, no matter what you may be struggling with after giving birth. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Never let anyone else effect your sense of self or bring you down.

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